I feel terrible for any birthmother who does not have a support system but there are many options through Kirsh & Kirsh to establish a solid support system and deal not only with adoption issues but other issues you personally face as well. Laws are in place for a reason, they protect the child, the adoptive parents and the birthfamily. No, you cannot change your mind, even if it is only 72 hours after the fact. All of this is clearly outlined in the preliminary packet you receive and since it doesn't sound like you made this decision in the hosptial I will assume you had ample time to review and understand the laws and procedures. If a birthmother doesn't clearly understand the laws surrounding adoption it is because she isn't listening, not because they aren't told to her over and over and over. Ask any Kirsh birthmother and she will tell you the same thing. Steve Kirsh is a pioneer in adoption because he does it the right way. This is a choice but it should not be an impulsive choice. This choice should be careful and thought out and informed. You may have felt coerced by your parents but that isn't Steve Kirsh's fault or the adoptive parents fault; you just decided this 72 hours too late. And in this state too late is in the law books.
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